WYLDE WOMAN | KINDRA CALONIA
Where do you come from? How has that impacted your journey so far?
I come from a small island in the Philippines. My mother is Filipino my father is Italian. Split at the root, I hold the cadence of the ocean deep in my blood. Being of mixed race has been a fountain of knowledge in understanding different cultures. It has definitely opened me up to the multitudes of living, people and dreams.
Where is your favourite place to spend your time?
I love hiking and diving. The tops of mountains and deep ocean blues are my favourite places to be.
How do you balance work with your holistic life?
I usually let it all out with a dance. Movement is a beautiful form of expression sans words. I try to attend 5 rhythms or practice yoga. When I need to go deeper I help myself to a meditation course or a Watsu massage.
Do you have a ritual for creativity & inspiration?
Creativity is a source that needs constant work and play. We all have it, you just need to harness it. I usually do something “creative” that will unlock the inspiration I need whether its painting, dancing, pottery, writing. All things that are not part of my creative life and job but still within the realm of expression. Spontaneous creation is a good way to move outside of your comfort zone.
What has been your biggest lesson?
To learn how to say no and putting yourself first before others is an act of kindness rather than selfishness. Saying no to a destructive relationship despite the love , saying no to a family event to take care of yourself first is more important than being in that relationship or attend that gathering. People who love you will always be there. Presence of self goes beyond the material world, it is felt.
Who do you look up to?
I don’t look up to anyone nor do I have a God. Life is what it is and everyone coming my way is part and cluster of everything that makes up this very idea of being.
If you could invite anyone over to dinner, who would it be and why?
I would love to have a gathering of women from Frida Kahlo to Alice Coltrane. I’ve always been intrigued by women artists who’ve been able to express that which is beyond the palpable truth into their art.
What are your hopes for the rest of the year and what would you like to share with the world?
If every year marks a growth then I hope that in this new decade we grow collectively rather than individually.
What would be your advice to women?
Understand who you are and embrace it. Understand that by getting to know yourself you face fear and understand that fear is a world wide sentiment. Overcoming fear may be dangerous but it will also bring you into the depths of who you really are and no one can ever teach you that essence of self. Love yourself, howl to the moon and know that knowledge is truth.
What is your definition of a WYLDE WOMAN?
I recall Clarissa Estes, where she writes, in the first line of her book, “Wildlife and Wild Woman are both endangered species“. A Wylde Woman is a woman who understands fear and overcomes it, is a woman who understands others and serves them neither as slave nor master but as guidance, as helping others will only allow the Wylde Woman to know herself more. A Wylde Woman is in touch with the cosmos around her and knows that within herself lies this very same energy and life force that communes us all. To be Wylde is to know how to love.